If you can walk you can dance.

Well, I've run out of conditioner for my hair and lost my hairbrush and I look like a tramp and I crawled out of bed really late. Today was supposed to be my new routine morning and a blew it by ignoring Graham's advice to 'put that book down' and didn't sleep until 2.30am. The book is called 'If you can walk you can dance', but could more appropriately been called 'if you can pick this up you can also put it down'.

Reading books is like different relationships. They can be warm and satisfying with potential to transform everything and everyone. They can be dull. They can be exciting. They can be dull and occasionally exciting. They can be exciting and occasionally dull. They can be wildly exciting and easily spent. They can also start well and end badly. The book I stupidly read until the early hours was being read simply so I could finally get to the end and be put out of my misery. Graham doesn't understand why, for me, even really irritating books need to be finished. If he gets bored with them he just dumps them. I think this is because he doesn't really believe you can have a relationship with a book.

So this book, was love at first site, a grand passion and I bored people to death with my enthusiasm to start with. Unfortunately this rapidly slid into dissillusionment.
The odd thing about it was that it was that I picked it up in our very limited library because was the only book in sight with a decent cover and title. I was amazed to find when I started reading it that it was not, as the title indicated, about dancing but largely about 'ethnomusicology'. This is odd because one of my Swedish relatives introduced me to this unheard of phenomena because he is coming to Goldsmiths university in London to study it. I thought this was weird because I had never heard of 'ethnomusicology' and neither had anyone else I knew.

This book started off with the most wonderful concept, a woman exploring her life through a radically new approach to music and music as a form of survival. It explored her development into emotional, psychological, sexual maturity through music. Half way through the book I realised that I really wouldn't blame her if she leapt off a cliff into the Niagra Falls. Then I realised that I thought the doomed and complicated relationship around which the story evolved was not really worth the perseverance. Then by the third 2am ordeal in Part Three I realised that this was the last time I was ever going to read a book that had a Part Three. Then by the fourth 2am reading I realised that I couldn't understand what she saw in him anyway. I decided that if he had treated me like that I like to believe I would have knocked him over the Viagara Falls first and put an end to the whole sorry business. Then by the fifth 2am endeavour I realised that for several days all my friends had been asking if I was alright because I kept blinking at them and rubbing my eyes because they were blurring at the edges. I had eye strain. Well last night was the final episode of all night reading vigils and the final revelation. I realised that the author should have just written a reference book. Then we would have been spared this ludicrous proposition with which she decided to showcase her enthusiasm for her specialism. If she had just written about it, albeit briefly, I would have found it fascinating.

I am well-known for my own propensity to analyse and de-construct my own emotional state and living with myself is boring enough. Having to suffer the additional burden of another woman's issues with every imaginable scenario she encounters was really tiring. Anyone can tell you that living with one person that you love for fourteen years can take its toll on conversation from time to time. These two hadn't spent more than a few hours at a time in each other's company until about a decade into their 'relationship'. The conversation centred almost entirely on their inability to have relationships, least of all their own. I had difficulty imagining what they would talk about when she finally moved in with him and his wife and step-son, her bereaved South African Mother and his senile Scottish one. The only vocabulary they had was littered with phrases like 'Jennie, I'm emotionally blocked at the moment', and 'Neil, you are retreating'. The only successful communication seemed to take place between his cello and her Viola. I had visions of his mother screaming out to be taken to the loo in a broad Glaswegian accent. I imagine the Chilean Political refugee 'marriage-of-convenience' cancer patient wife tending to the mother-in-law. I imagine the son of the Chilean Political refugee (not from the marriage of convenience but by a Political exile of unknown origin) walking in on his Composer step- Dad of convenience with his equally emotionally-blocked wife who he married in a strange African ritual in the Nyika Plateau. I imagine them making up for ten years of snatched sex by having sex (in an emotionally blocked way) with an oboe in the attic while the South African not-mother-in-law but Mother-in-law by strange African fertility ritual does the crossword in Afrikaans wondering what on earth she got herself into.