Laughter

In England many of us Religous types have been watching a series called 'Around the World in 80 Faiths'. In said programme a particularly eccentric Church of England Priest is literally travelling the world in a floppy hat experiencing 80 different faiths. If I'm honest, I feel jealous. Anglicans in particular are not renowned for our capacity for having fun. Even when we are trying to be 'lively' it takes a superlative effort and has a forced air about it. Anglicans in English society are stereotyped as seriously humourless. While the Hindus in India are having dung fights and dousing each other with Vermillion paint and the Sufis are whirling... we aren't.

The most exciting it gets is our wild use of a limited pallette of liturgical colour. Every now and then we go crazy and swap purple altar cloths for Scarlet. Recently I have become very enamoured of sitting in silence. But it has its limitations. Yesterday three of us met for our half hour of Silent Prayer. This is really a form of meditation. It is like a Quaker meeting. We sit in a semi-circle in silence around a candle. This form of prayer can become desperately serious. In fact a great deal of religious activity can become a very serious matter. This is generally thought to be a good thing. We want to take what we do seriously. The danger comes when we start to take ourselves too seriously.

Which is why yesterday afternoon and the day before that was so good for us all. In Churches there is great focus on prayer and silence and listening intently to each other, God and ourselves. There is earnest commitment to transformation and growth. We are always striving to do things more effectively and to improve what we do so that it is more helpful. There is relentless work to be something a skeptical population can take seriously. It can make for sombre weeks. We have many meetings with intense discussion. We are always looking out for people and, as you know, dealing with traumatic realities. But yesterday and the day before we simply laughed and laughed and laughed. It was such a relief.

For me there is a tendency to take life and myself too seriously anyway. This tendency is exacerbated by being a religious person. It is intensified further by spending so much time with religious people in religious settings. But I have always loved a laugh too and was very prone to giggling as a child. Children understand about laughter. They know it is necessary. They are right. When we were children we knew how to laugh out loud for hours on end about absolutely nothing.

On one occasion of hilarity I was sitting in a circle trying to take myself seriously, and pulling my face into a pious, earnest demeanour. On the other I gave up trying.

On the first occasion I was in a setting with people I didn't know, being watched from a distance by friends who knew I was trying to keep a straight face. On the second I was with two friends who are both very funny, our Silent Prayer meeting ended up being a 'Laughter meeting'. My friend suggested that we advertise future conventions in the Newsletter as 4.00pm Silent Laughter, 5.00pm Raucous laughter and 6.00pm Hysterical Laughter.

On the first occasion my friends had abandoned me to my fate. I was sat with many earnest characters perpetually singing one line chants and interspersing them with tightly choreographed silences. There is a limit to how much time we can spend singing 'The Lord is My Light' whilst sitting in the dark. I couldn't meet the eyes of my mischievous friends and so I was pretending to pray fervently about important matters. What I was actually doing was fervently praying that the laughter wouldn't spill out in a torrent. Eventually it did after a torturous Forty-Five minutes. I had to walk away in a calm and ordered manner through the cavernous space, seeking a private place where I could release the illicit humour. I tried to be meditative as I fled and not click my heels on the tiles. I walked into the little room at the back and silently laughed and laughed until my sides hurt and I started to make little snorting and squeaking noises. I hid with a friend and was unable to speak. There had been something about the piety of those around me. All those eyes closed with beatific smiles and eyebrows slightly raised. There is an unwritten law that when we religious people pray together we place our hands on our laps facing upwards and together in an attitude of 'recieving'. I have always resisted the urge but it is contagious and I caught this disease. I find that I sit raising my own eyebrows expectantly, my own face smiling beatifically, with my hands placed accurately on my lap. It is a matter of time before I am wearing a knitted , striped hand-knitted jumper with motifs all over it and a strange fish-shaped necklace. This I have so far resisted but I know I am far from immune. By Summer I am likely to be wearing open toed, sensible, velcro-fixed, practical sandals and ear-rings in the shape of crucifixes. As the Piety Syndrome becomes more advanced I will be using words like 'challenge' and 'radical'. There is no medication for this disease. It is inevitable. What concerns me is that the disease at its most severe actually robs us of our sense of humour. People forget that God gave us laughter. God didn't ever give us a commandment that said 'thou shalt sit in circles wearing odd clothes with not even a twitch of humour in your soul'. Unfortunately we seem to have made this 'no amusement commandment' up. It is inscribed in Pious Law along with all the other odd conventions which have crept in: wearing beards and sandals among them. There is a new tradition of wearing odd plastic bangles with coded inscriptions like WWJD embossed into the wristband as though we live in such persecution in England that morse code is the only way. I assure you that my time spent in a room of twenty such characters all sitting mute with hands in a scooping motion waiting to catch the Lord's grace recovered my sense of humour. As I surreptitiously looked up during an accurately timed 'Long Silence' I caught twenty pairs of eyelids closed lightly in adoring contemplation, fish-necklaces twinkling above the neckline of a hand-knit jumper and I lost it completely.

I made the fatal decision of checking that it wasn't just me. I glanced sideways at my friend who has the odd defect of being a religious person possessing an outrageous sense of humour. Mistake. Big mistake. My stomach started involuntarily jumping and I started making tiny coughing noises, air escaping accidentally from my nostrils. It was unbearable. The more amused I became the severe they all looked. The more laughter that came the more disapproving they all felt. I didn't know what to do about it. But the situation was about to worsen. Two other friends, not infected with religiosity had decided to observe my humiliation from a distance. These grown adults, regressing with the classroom atmosphere had hidden behind some pews in the children's area. I couldn't see them committing their crimes. But I could hear them. They started to titter. At my most desparate they became unable to contain themselves. The tittering became muffled squawking. They began to sound convincingly hysterical. Mr Hand-knit to my right obviously fancied himself as Priestly Male and took on the responsibility of managing what increasingly sounded like two people having nervous breakdowns. He took a break from showing off his middle-class Latin, while the rest of us continued to sing in English and loped into the darkness in search of his opportunity to display his pastoral expertise. I was too helpless to concentrate on this activity at the back of the Church. I couldn't save them from him. He returned looking bewildered after some time using his Vicar voice. I was to find out later that he had found two adult women lying on their backs on the carpet doing 'Meercat impressions'. Evidently they had originally been 'playing meercats' by peering secretly over the pews and bouncing up and down. Unfortunately he found them embarrasingly lying down, losing the plot in full character as Mr and Mrs Meercat. "Are you alright?", he asked, in what was possibly the most unneccessary sentence uttered. My wonderfully honest, un-infected friend still resisting Piety Disorder was frank with Mr Handknit. She replied honestly to his unsubtle request for her to shut up which had been neatly disguised as deep concern. She wasn't sure, she said. 'Not really' she said. 'I'm not sure whether I'm hysterical or not' (she'd had a bad day). The fact of her meercat impression in the children's area probably could have answered his question. Mr Handknit faced with two hysterical Meercats was, surprisingly, inclined to return to his Latin, apparently less concerned for her welfare than he had initially declared. The Vicar voice is clearly not adequate for dealing with hysterical women. He absented himself and at this point a secret sqeal emerged from the gloom. I thought it was going to kill me and the heaving in my stomach muscles began again, little spasms that I couldn't contain and I was convinced the little group of good people were going to think I was having a 'Harry met Sally moment'. But it was never going to be an orgasm in an atmosphere like that. The worst of it was that laughter was much more outrageous than sexual ecstasy in a Holy Place. At least Latin-speaking Vicars could refer me for medical treatment for being too fleshly. At least he could have quoted Theresa of Avila and the sculpture of her at the climax of her 'rapture. But I was not in rapture, I was in carnal torture. I eventually fled when the final silence fell. I went into hiding in the Vestry weeping with slapping my thighs like a lunatic and banging my head on the table, wheezing and gasping while the unsuspecting Ann looked on in surprise.

Yesterday it still hadn't worn off. I met with another Syndrome-free friend and the anomoly from the night before with the outrageous humour. We met, ostensibly, for Silent Prayer but it never happened. The outrageous anomoly, it transpired had been seated in the circle the night before concentrating on the dial on her watch while I was in spasms and our Meercat friends were acting out their bizarre therapy on the children's carpet. The other Syndrome-free friend had stayed at home while we suffered, she had not, she declared, been able to face it.

As we discussed the Meercats, the Latin-speaking hand-knits, the squealing in the Vestry we moved onto even worse memories of Pious gatherings and the totally unacceptable moments when our humour got the better of us and we had met the twinkle in another's eye.

moody blues

The new night light in the dining room has upset the cats. Mr B, feeling seasonably climate aware, decided to do the moral thing and get a low-energy one when the last one died on us leaving us stumbling around in the dark. Since I had an insomnia night last night at 4 am I stumbled into the dining room to find the cats not neatly curled up on their special cushion. Not snoozing and dreaming their noses scrunched into the hand-woven fabric. Not twitching their paws with imaginary mice in their claws. None of these. The cats greeted me with wild panic in their eyes. Anyone would think they had suddenly become aware of the Financial Crisis and that they had realised that they could be meat-free and facing starvation. They pleaded with me and ran to my ankles, tripping me up and screeching at me. They looked really confused and blinded and kept staring at the new eco-friendly night light as though it were a UFO re-fuelling on its way from outer-space. They kept wailing in cat-speak 'what the hell is that?'. I have never seen them move so fast and they fled upstairs to crawl into bed with Mr B, racing past another terrifying alien monster on the landing.

It is true that it has an alarming quality about it, though I thought they were being a little over-dramatic. It is neon-blue which screams melodrama and catastrophe. I hate eco-friendly light bulbs. By night they reduce our lovely warm-toned house to a space with the feel of a Crime Scene Investigation. I keep expecting to see areas of the living room cordoned off with striped tape and unreasonably attractive pathologists pulling on rubber gloves. On positive nights it is more industrial kitchen than mortuary which has more promise as an ambience. Even the ostentatious 'bought on a whim' lamp once referred to by an ex-friend as a 'pair of tart's knickers' hasn't been spared by global warming. Mr B has really gone all-out for the environment and now the taut leopard-skin and feather boa boudoir lamp has a strange coil-shaped device inserted into it. This 'ex-friend' once famously said of this Burlesque lamp that 'he didn't know whether to sleep with it or kick it out of bed'. Now I think he would find this a much easier decision since she is reduced to blue-green toned sanitised utlitarian appearance. More operating theatre gown than negligee.

When people look back on the 'noughties', they will remember it not in black or white or in flamboyant colours but in a strange bluey-greeney sallow sickly tone. Films of 2009 will be characterised by this melancholy bleakness. It is strangely symbolic that the 'depression years' will be remembered with this textureless flat sooth-saying doom-laden light. Cats are creatures of instinct. I am sure they would want to save the planet as much as the rest of us but even so they will never compromise on the mood of a night by the fire.

The mother of all depressing weeks.

Well.

Depressing is an inadequate word for the past week. There are apocolyptic fires in Australia. Terrifying warfare in the Holy Land. Turning on the news makes us whince and cry. Turning it off leaves us with so much guilt that we turn it back on again. There is a Global Recession, which in Britain is now referred to as a 'depression'. This seems much more apt. Everyone I know is depressed. It is hardly surprising. The devastating stories of our brothers and sisters in Australia, Israel, Zimbabwe, The Congo and many more all living hellish nightmares in real time. The overwhelming sense of the betrayal by our banking system. The suspicions we had that the promises of Materialism, Consumerism and Captialism were not quite the whole truth are now more than paranoia. We are realising more fully that our entire society is based around a fantasy of greed and deception. We feel duped here. We never believed in our financial institutions without cynicism but we had little choice but to rely upon them. To add insult to injury our recently unemployed redundant population are forced to listen to Banking executives defending their rights to 2.5 million pound bonuses for annual performance. Our suicide rates are predicted to soar here in the UK and possibly globally. Given that we Churches are in the business of burying our dead and listening to trauma we are finding it hard to contemplate the future. Our Priests buried 240 people in the last year alone. This was before these gloomy predictions. This was a light workload, much diminished from the usual number of around 300. We work in areas of already existing severe urban deprivation, the Jobcentre is already one of the most frequented places, and one of the most disappointing.

Yesterday we had to bury a couple whom we married in August last year and who died the day after New Years day together whilst enjoying her Christmas present of a flight in a light aircraft. After six months of marriage, they leave an 18 month old baby, and a ten year old from a previous relationship. They didn't even have much time together as a couple before they married. I have never been to a funeral with two coffins and two eulogies where six months beforehand we were waiting for the bride to arrive clutching her bouquet only to find ourselves waiting for her coffin to come through the same door with a wreath in place of a bridal bouquet. I should point out that this a high profile incident, reported in the media and so I am not breaking any confidences in sharing this.

Being a lover of words doesn't help much in situations like this. They are too inadequate, everything said seems insulting, nothing does justice to the pain. It has been an awful week and because, to my Swedish cousins' amusement, England completely shuts down after two inches of snow we have all been boareded up in our houses alone watching this endless footage of everything falling apart, watching it in isolation. All of us independently wondering what was wrong with us when we couldn't face getting up in the morning.

Human survival and strength being what it is I am feeling unaccountably upbeat this morning. It is a very inappropriate feeling but I have only listened to accounts of bombing in Gaza and the election process in Israel so far this morning. Oh and a little more about this being the worst Economic Crisis in living memory. I won't be watching the news tonight.